| Alright! Let’s clear something up here… Because the internet has absolutely butchered the word “SIMP.” Somewhere along the way in our beautifully f*cked up society. Men started to think that being kind to a woman, caring about her, or actually enjoying her company automatically makes you a simp. And now we’ve got a whole generation of guys trying to act like cold, emotionless robots. With a false belief that it’ll make them attractive. Let me save you some time. It’s not attractive. It’s weird. A simp is not a man who treats women well. A simp is a man who treats women well… in hopes of getting something in return. That’s the key difference most men are missing. A simp: • Is nice because he wants approval • Agrees with everything she says • Hides his real thoughts to avoid rejection • Walks on eggshells • Pretends he’s not attracted to her • Hopes his “good behavior” leads to sex or validation It’s not kindness. It’s a covert contract. “I’ll be this version of myself… So you give me what I want.” And women feel that instantly. That subtle neediness. That lack of backbone. That “please like me” energy. Now on the flip side… We’ve got the other extreme. Guys who completely devoured the red pill content and swung all the way over into becoming emotionally constipated. Now they think: • Being distant = attractive • Not caring = power • Acting bored = confidence • Never showing interest = game So they walk around like this stiff, overly calculated version of themselves… Trying to say the “right” thing Trying not to look too interested Trying to maintain some fake sense of control And it’s just an absolute mess. Because now you’re not a simp… But you’re also not a man she actually enjoys being around. You’re just… flat. Predictable. Low energy. Kind of boring, if we’re being honest. Here’s the truth no one is telling you: Women don’t want a guy who’s begging for approval… But they also don’t want a guy who acts like he’s emotionally unavailable 24/7. They want a man who is: – Authentic – Grounded – Expressive —> And not attached to the outcome while being that way. A man who can look at her and say: “Yeah, I’m attracted to you.” Without overthinking it. Without hiding it. Without trying to play it cool. A man who can enjoy her… Without needing anything from her. That’s the sweet spot. Not: “I’ll do anything for you, please like me.” And not: “I don’t care about you at all.” But: “I like you. I’m enjoying this. And I’m good either way.” That energy? That’s what actually creates attraction. Open the door for her. Compliment her. Take the lead. Flirt, banter, laugh. You can show desire. None of that makes you a simp… I promise you! Here’s what actually makes you a simp: When you abandon yourself in the process. When you filter everything you say. When you hide your opinions. When you make her the center of your world after 5 minutes. When your mood depends on how she responds to you. That’s where the problem is. The problem is not being a good man. But in being a dependent one. So don’t overcorrect. Don’t become so “red-pilled” that you strip away everything that makes you human. Your humor. Your warmth. Your curiosity. Your ability to actually connect. Because yeah… You might avoid being a simp. But you’ll also avoid being attractive. The goal isn’t to become colder. The goal is to become more solid in yourself. So you can be: Kind… without being weak. Direct… without being awkward. Expressive… without being needy. Interested… without being attached. That’s the man women actually want. Not the guy who’s trying to win them over. And not the guy pretending he doesn’t care. Just the guy who knows exactly how he feels. And isn’t afraid to show it. |
| Much love, Shawn “Sheshn” Heshmatpour |
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