It’s time to have a real talk about leadership.
Male leadership is controversial today.
Many men shy away from it, afraid of being seen as controlling.
But women aren’t repelled by leadership; they’re repelled by incompetence.
A man who can’t lead himself can’t lead her.
But when a man can lead himself, he can lead her (and others).
1. Leadership Is a Gift, Not Control
Authority without leadership is abuse.
Leadership without authority is chaos.
Real masculine leadership means setting the tone, making decisions, and creating direction without taking away her agency.
She’s not your slave.
She’s your co-pilot.
2. Why Leadership Matters in Attraction
No matter what society says, women are instinctively repulsed by men who won’t lead.
I don’t even care what any modern-day feminists say…
All of that “I don’t need a man to feel complete” BS gets thrown out the window when she meets a man who has a positive, fun-loving energy and takes initiative to make decisions.
Don’t ask me how I know this 😉
If you hesitate, she won’t feel safe.
Leadership is primal.
It’s about being the man who takes initiative without force.
Be the man who is the first to make a decision of what vibe you want to create, what conversations you want to have with her, and what places you bring her to.
3. Lead Yourself First
The hardest man to lead is you.
Your lust, laziness, rage, and comfort cravings will destroy you if you let them.
Discipline yourself through journaling, reframing, and choosing discomfort over numbing.
The man who leads himself never begs for authority it flows naturally.
4. Compassionate Leadership
When you can handle your own darkness, you stop blaming women for theirs.
You see her challenges as part of you, not separate.
This is what allows you to lead her with compassion, not resentment.
To set the tone firmly, but with love.
Leadership isn’t optional in modern society.
As men are becoming more passive, insecure, and distracted from their own presence, women will crave a man like you who can learn how to lead.
The bar is set lower than ever.
We live in an age of comfort, and the only thing you need to do is just make decisions from a light-hearted place.
Imagine that.
You don’t need to hunt for food.
You don’t need to wait to get drafted into a war.
You don’t need to defend yourself from wild animals or rival tribes.
You literally just need to be a fun-loving man who can take initiative.
I understand the fears and confusion that make it seem difficult for you to do this because I was once that guy.
But looking back at my life now and seeing myself communicating with the current woman I am dating… It was all so easy; I just didn’t have the tools or understanding to do it.
It’s not about dominating women; it’s about being the kind of man they want to follow because your presence creates safety and direction.
| Much love, Shawn “Sheshn” Heshmatpour |
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