| Hey there, The first quarter of 2026 is coming to an end. I hope you’ve been crushing it with your goals you have set for yourself this year! As I’ve been working with guys in my brotherhood, I’ve noticed a pattern I want to share with you today. A lot of men are taught the wrong lessons when it comes to their goals. Especially goals that involve interacting with others. (Sales, networking, personal branding, dating, social life, etc.) They think they need to become more impressive. A bigger bank account. A loud social animal. More physically attractive. But the real shift? One that you must learn REGARDLESS of what you have or don’t have. It’s learning how not to be needy. The most important thing every man needs to learn… Is how to not need anything from the moment he’s in. Because the second you need something… You start chasing it. And chasing changes your energy. Being needy pushes away everything you say you want: -> Sales -> Women -> Friendships Not because you’re a bad person. You’re not creepy, you’re not weird, you’re not fucked up. People can just feel when you need something from them. I am sure you have felt that from others before, and it does not feel good. They feel it in your tone. They feel it in your timing. They feel it in the way you subtly try to control the interaction. You’re no longer just there to connect… You’re there to get something. And that kills everything. Now I already know what you might be thinking. Because I used to think the same way. “But I have bills to pay.” “But I want a girlfriend.” “But I don’t want to be alone.” All valid. I get it. But here’s where most guys get it wrong… They think letting go of neediness means not caring. It doesn’t. It means you trust yourself enough. That you don’t need this specific moment to go your way. You don’t need this girl to like you. You don’t need this sale to close. You don’t need this conversation to turn into something. Because you know you can create more. You know you’ll have more chances. You know you’re not operating from your last opportunity. That’s the difference. Scarcity says: “This has to work.” Abundance says: “I’ll make it work. Whether it’s this or the next.” When you don’t trust yourself… You grip harder. You overthink. You try to say the perfect thing. You try to control the outcome. And ironically… That’s what pushes everything away! I had to learn this the hard way. There were times in my life when I needed things to work. Needed the sale. Needed the girl. Needed the validation. And every time… I felt tight. I felt off. I did not feel like I was being my natural self. Then there were other times… Where I was just there. Present. Enjoying the moment. Not trying to get anything. And those were the moments everything clicked. Conversations flowed. Attraction was natural. Opportunities showed up without force. Because I wasn’t trying to take. I was just expressing myself and being involved with the present moment. That’s the shift most men need to make. Stop approaching life like: “What can I get from this?” “I hope I get this girl’s number.” “I need to close this sale.” And start living like: “How do I show up fully in this moment?” Learn to enjoy the art of communication. Not just the result of it. Learn to enjoy leveling up your skills. Not just where they take you. Learn to enjoy sharing your thoughts. Not just how people respond. Because when you’re rooted in the process… You stop putting pressure on the outcome. And when there’s no pressure… There’s no neediness. You become free in your interactions. Free to speak. Free to express. Free to walk away. And that is the real power that people are actually attracted to. Here’s the truth most men don’t want to hear: You don’t attract what you want. You attract from the state you’re in. If you’re in a state of need… You repel. If you’re in a state of wholeness… You attract. And that state comes from one realization: You lack nothing. Even at the start. You don’t need to “become enough.” You already are. You’re just operating like you’re not. The second you internalize that… Everything changes. You stop forcing. You stop chasing. You stop trying to make things happen. And instead… You start allowing things to happen. That’s when sales get easier. That’s when women feel more drawn to you. That’s when friendships feel natural. Not because you learned some new tactic. But because your energy changed. You’re no longer the guy who needs something. You’re the guy who is something. And THAT… Is what attracts. |
| This can be difficult to learn on your own. The ambitious drive within you may feel conflicted with letting go of the outcome. You are afraid that being yourself is not simply enough. But it is… It’s all you need. And in my brotherhood, Divine Alchemy, I coach you through that. I give you guidance on weekly calls to help you with your internal world and how to practically use it in your day-to-day ambitions. The inner game is the HARDEST part of the work, but it can be done. You deserve an active dating life. You deserve a social life you are proud of. You deserve to start your own business or advance in your career. But you just need the proper guidance and accountability to make yourself feel confident enough to act on it smoothly. So if you feel called to make 2026 your year. Much love, Shawn “Sheshn” Heshmatpour |
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