| Procrastination can really take a chip away of your own self-confidence. I know on days where I’ve avoided doing what’s good for me, whether it be working out, nutrition, business tasks, making new friends, or talking to attractive women – I’ve noticed I end up feeding myself with self-doubt. Here’s the thing about not doing what you say you are going to do…. When you tell yourself you’re going to do something and you don’t follow through with it, you are taking a chip away of trust with yourself. The less you trust yourself, the more you will go after easy comfort (TV, weed, porn, mindless social media scrolling, junk food, video games). The more you go for easy comfort, the more you will avoid leaning into the discomfort of fulfilling your meaningful desires. Your survival brain is wired to do three things: 1. Avoid pain 2. Seek pleasure 3. Become as efficient at it as possible This is called the motivational triad. It’s needed for us to be able to pickup on danger, go for what’s safe, and to train our minds to learn the pattern automatically. We needed this for survival at one point in human history but now? You don’t face real danger on a day-to-day basis. Your fears are more intellectual rather than primal. These intellectual fears are what have you avoid discomfort. Some examples: Avoids social gatherings ➜ Fear of being judged Avoids approaching women ➜ Fear of rejection Avoids starting that business ➜ Fear of failure Avoids creating content on social media ➜ Fear of getting no likes, views, comments, or engagement Everything you avoid comes from fear of judgement, failure, and the uncertainty of the outcome not being what you want. These fears make you avoid things you say to yourself that you will do. The more you avoid what you say you will say you do, the less you trust yourself. And the less you trust yourself, the more you will avoid taking risks. The more you avoid taking risks, the more dull and depressed you will feel. It all turns into a downhill mental and emotional spiral. You end up not living out the expression and behavior of what you want to create with your life. So how do you change this? Here is a practical guide you can start writing out in a journal today: ➥ Write out the goal you want to accomplish ➥ Write the daily habits you must do to accomplish it ➥ Write out all the current thoughts on why you have not done it yet ➥ Write out the new thoughts you must start creating to feel ALIGNED with your daily habit Here is an example: 1. Goal: Get back into the dating game 2. Habits: Create more conversations with women I find attractive (approaches, social events, networking, etc.) 3. Current beliefs: Approaching is awkward, I don’t want to get rejected, I will just get let down, I don’t have time to be social 4. New beliefs: Practicing conversations will make me more confident communicating with women, talking to more women is good for my personal and relational growth, the more women I chat with the easier it’ll be for me to flirt and go on dates, I will make time for talking to women because having a romantic partner is important to me Every morning when I wake up I write out a brain dump (raw thoughts going on in my mind). I do an unintentional and intentional model of alignment (click here for a free copy of this practice). I write out a new habit I want to be consistent at followed by beliefs (same structure as example I provided above). Finally, I finish my morning writing with sentences of gratitude. I don’t put my pen and journal away until I CAN FEEL IT. Prime your mind every morning, and if you don’t follow through on the habit – that’s okay. Don’t beat yourself up. Go back to writing about it in your journal the next morning. Make it your focus until it finally happens in live action with your reality. But the major key takeaway I want you to always come back to is this: Procrastination, burn out, lack of motivation, or any other feeling associated with avoidance is all in the mind The more you see it as an opportunity to ask what is going on within, the more you will get answers. And if this is a problem that you need help with, to gain the confidence in yourself to: ➝ Start meeting women➝ Start making new friends➝ Begin that business or side hustle you’ve been putting off, you must have a practice that is mental, emotional and physical. My role, as your guide, coach, and mentor is to be able to raise your levels of awareness of what is blocking you from creating it. Overcome these subconscious blocks from the root cause and then shift your focus and attention to what you are able to create in your life while holding you accountable. My goal for us together is that by the end of our coaching, you will not need me again. If you’d like to schedule your first call together: CLICK HERE. We can dive into what’s holding you back and get clear on your goals. On the call I’ll show you a personalized game plan for how I will help you get to your goals while feeling good about yourself and your progress along the way. Investing in yourself is one of the best ways to turn years of progress into only months. But that comes with you being ready to commit to yourself. Are you ready to have the balls to approach women? Are you ready to have the open heart to be vulnerable and allow love back into your life? Are you determined enough to start taking action towards generating your own wealth? If yes, click here to schedule your first free call with me. Let’s turn your future into one you can finally be excited about. Much love, Shawn “Sheshn” Heshmatpour |
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