Let’s have a real conversation.
You know damn well what you should be doing.
You should be posting that piece of content that actually expresses who you are.
You should be reaching out to that prospect who’s waiting to be led.
You should be walking up to the woman you’ve been eyeing for the past 15 minutes.
You should be saying “yes” to that invite, putting yourself in a room that stretches you.
But you don’t.
Instead?
You hesitate.
You overthink.
You stay “busy.”
You scroll.
You optimize your calendar.
You plan tomorrow’s plan for today.
And you call it procrastination.
But that’s not what it is.
It’s protection.
Because deep down, there’s a part of you that still doesn’t feel safe being seen.
A part that’s terrified of being rejected, laughed at, dismissed, misunderstood.
It’s not about the task.
It’s about what would happen to your sense of self if it didn’t go well.
If they didn’t say yes.
If you looked like a fool.
If it confirmed the fear you’ve been secretly carrying for years:
“Maybe I’m not good enough.”
Most men are not lazy.
They are just scared.
Scared of exposure.
Scared of failure.
Scared of fully stepping into the weight of their power because then there’s no one left to blame when shit doesn’t go their way.
So instead of stepping forward, they stay frozen in that safe little pocket of “almost ready.”
They stay stuck in:
- Business: “I need a new funnel before I start selling.”
- Dating: “I’m just working on myself right now.”
- Social life: “I don’t really vibe with people around here.”
Bullshit.
What’s actually happening is your nervous system is running your strategy.
And your nervous system is stuck in survival.
Here’s what most guys don’t realize:
Every time you avoid what you know you should do, you’re reinforcing the belief that:
- You aren’t safe expressing your truth
- Rejection is dangerous
- The world can’t handle you in your full, grounded masculine presence
And eventually, that belief turns into your identity.
The “almost” guy.
The guy who’s close.
The guy with potential.
And potential gets zero results.
Want to know who gets the money, the woman, the tribe?
The man who moves.
The man who leads.
The man who stops seeking permission and starts backing himself loudly, boldly, relentlessly.
He’s not smarter than you.
He’s not better looking than you.
He just trusts himself more than you trust yourself.
He’s built self-worth through action.
He’s built confidence through risk.
He’s failed publicly, flirted sloppily, and sold imperfectly.
Until all of it became second nature.
You think he’s “confident.”
What you’re really seeing is repetition + resilience.
That’s the work we do inside Divine Alchemy.
It’s not therapy.
It’s not another motivational hype group.
It’s a brotherhood built for men who are done hiding behind potential and ready to become the men they were designed to be.
In business. In dating. In social life. In legacy.
Inside, we help you:
- Clear the emotional and subconscious blocks holding you back from being fully seen
- Rewire your nervous system to feel safe leading, flirting, creating, and building
- Develop the masculine presence and emotional depth that makes you undeniable in the rooms that matter
You’re not stuck.
You’re just living from an outdated version of yourself.
Let’s change that.
Much love,
Shawn “Sheshn” Heshmatpour
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