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What every man should feel blessed to experience while he’s still single
You might find some of these teachings crazy, Shawn.But read it until the end, and from there you'll understand the bigger picture.What every man should feel blessed to experience while he’s still single: 1. Financial hardship When you face financial hardship...
You’ll Never Feel Fulfilled If You Keep Chasing “There.”
Lately, I’ve been reminded of something powerful:Most men aren’t out of alignment… they’re just out of rhythm. We’ve been conditioned since childhood to rush from one milestone to the next:Get good grades → get into college → get the job → get the girl → get the...
Why You Keep Losing to Your Temptations
I treated myself to Battlefield 6 for my birthday not long ago. Haven’t played it yet.Not because I don’t want to — trust me, I do — but because I’m keeping a promise to myself. It’s been sitting on the shelf in my room, testing my discipline every night. Right...
Bro, you’re not failing, you’re just too tense
I hate this. I hate how my mind works. I hate everything about how society operates. I hate how I have to "improve myself" in order to feel like I can get a girlfriend. All the other dude's I grew up around made it look easy. No therapy needed. No coaching needed....
Ten Ways to Create a Stronger Masculine Presence with Women and Life
As a man, you are here to penetrate women.You have a penis.She has a vagina. Penis penetrates vagina.I am sure you already knew that, lol.Now let's talk about energy.Just like you penetrate her at a primal level to make babies (creation).You must also bring the...
Today’s my birthday, and I got a story for you.
This birthday story of mine goes down in the books.3 years ago, I treated myself to a hike in Prescott, AZ, for my birthday. What started as an innocent hike with Bella on shrooms turned into getting lost in the dark on a rocky hike, with a limited flashlight phone...
Ten Ways to Create a Stronger Masculine Presence with Women and Life
As a man, you are here to penetrate women.You have a penis.She has a vagina. Penis penetrates vagina.I am sure you already knew that, lol.Now let's talk about energy.Just like you penetrate her at a primal level to make babies (creation).You must also bring the...
Your self-awareness could be killing your social confidence
If you are like me, you probably take growth seriously.When I started this journey of awareness, I picked up the psychological frameworks and the foundations of self-mastery pretty quickly.I understood that everything in our reality is a story.I understood how...
Stop Being So Spiritual You’re No Earthly Good
There’s a trap in the spiritual and self-improvement space that nobody warns you about.It’s not addiction, it’s not narcissism, it’s not even ego inflation. It’s becoming so “spiritual” that you lose sight of how to be human. You meditate for hours, chase peak...
5 Myths of Entrepreneurship (feat. Roy Wang) | Ep. 5
Hey there, In this episode of The Podcast You Always Needed, Shawn welcomes his first guest ever on the show: Roy Wang, a coach, client, and friend from the Divine Alchemy Brotherhood. Together, they break down some of the biggest myths plaguing new entrepreneurs...
Why women don’t trust your leadership
It's time to have a real talk about leadership. Male leadership is controversial today. Many men shy away from it, afraid of being seen as controlling. But women aren’t repelled by leadership; they’re repelled by incompetence. A man who can’t lead himself can’t...
The masculine role you can’t ignore
Most men are terrified of approaching women.If you are subscribed to my newsletter, chances are you are still afraid of approaching women, too.I know I've been there before myself.Replaying the past rejections, freezing up, and telling ourselves a story of...
The #1 thing women want (that men keep missing)
Most men are confused about women. I know I was for a long period of my life, and I am sure this confusion comes up for you as well, my brother.You might either pedestalize them… or treat them like one of the guys. Neither works. Attraction isn’t about...
Why you still feel unworthy as a man (and how to fix it)
We're facing a crisis in society that I am sure you can relate to. Too many men today feel ashamed of who they are.They suppress their desires.They feel anxious about their status.They crumble when challenged. The truth?You were born with power.But if you don’t...
The #1 Life Hack For Your Dating Confidence to Skyrocket
I want to share with you a perspective on dating that I've noticed all men who have a healthy dating rotation, marriage, or relationship all have in common, which is the backbone of their successes. Part of dating with confidence is putting yourself out there as if...
Why every woman you date is a lesson.
Every woman you date is a crash test dummy for your growth. That might sound blunt, but it’s the truth most men miss. You meet her, get to know her, date her… and maybe it works out, maybe it doesn’t. When she leaves, most men spiral into self-doubt, bitterness, or...
The Art of Detached Ambition | Ep. 3
In this episode of The Podcast You Always Needed, I unpack one of the most overlooked keys to men’s ambitions: detachment. Ambition is healthy.Setting goals in business, dating, relationships, and life is how you grow. But when ambition is fueled by scarcity and...
The Silent Killer of Men’s Confidence: Forcing Outcomes
Most men I've worked with for the last 4 years have big goals: Building or scaling a business. Expanding their social circle.Having an active dating life. Finding the love of their life. Buying a home.Making $5k–40k per month, and even becoming a millionaire. I’ve...
I have something you need to hear 💚
Be kind instead of nice.Nice, gentle, and generous with those around you. And then have the ability to set boundaries when you are disrespected.It's not your gentle side that led to past traumas, which may have closed your heart to others today.It was your lack of...
Stop Relying on Achievements for Confidence | Ep. 2
In this episode of The Podcast You Always Needed, I open up about how I broke free from the trap of attaching my confidence to external achievements. From leaving a 9–5 to building my own business, I share how old conditioning crept back into my life — driving me...
The trap that killed my confidence (and how I overcame it)
Most men I coach (and even myself at one point) live under an invisible pressure they can’t even see. A pressure to prove themselves. Throughout their career.Through their bank account.Through their physique.Through their relationship status. It’s the pressure to...
Why You’re Still Playing Small
(Even If You Know Better) There’s a reason so many men feel stuck —in their careers,in their dating life,and in their own heads. And no, it’s not because you need new strategies or tactics. Thinking you need “one more tactic” is just fear chasing an easy way out....
Why Money or a Sex Life Feels So Hard For You
Most men are chasing results in business and dating while secretly carrying shame about even wanting them. They say they want confidence. Clarity. Purpose. But under all that? They want money.They want sex.They want to feel like powerful, wanted, respected men. And...
The Podcast You Always Needed is BACK — 4 Episodes In.
When I first relaunched this show with Episode 1, “A New Beginning”, I said it wasn’t just a welcome-back episode. It was a raw download from the last 4 years of my life. From building my coaching business, moving across states, dealing with chronic illness,...
The Podcast You Always Needed
Over the past 4 years, I’ve changed a lot. I’ve lived in three different states, coached hundreds of men privately and in groups, and gone deeper into healing, subconscious reprogramming, purpose, and power. And what I’ve learned has completely shifted the way I...
Two men. Same action. Only one gets the result.
Two men can do the exact same thing.Same words. Same moves. Same actions. But only one of them gets the outcome he desires. Why? Because it’s not about what you do, it’s about the story driving it. One man approaches a woman with grounded confidence. The other with...
You still think confidence is a personality trait?
Hey, I want to get something straight with you: Overcoming your insecurities has nothing to do with grinding until you pass out… Pretending not to care about the women you want to be loved by… Or endlessly "healing" in a moon circle until you’ve spiritually...
My 10 Odd Habits for Unshakeable Confidence
Most “high-confidence” lists read like a Boy Scout handbook: wake at 5 AM, cold plunge, gratitude journal, repeat. Cute but pretty surface level lol. I ditched that echo chamber and focused on practices that actually rewire the nervous system, identity, and cash...
The Rules Changed.
But The Pain Stayed the Same.There’s this collective illusion we’ve bought into that if we just change the rules, the pain will go away. We outlaw physical punishment. We stop hitting our kids. We ban the belt, the ruler, the backhand. And yet, here...
The Myth of Needing To “Catch up” is Ruining Your Confidence
I used to always wake up every day with the pedal slammed to the floor. I woke up in a hurry, worked in a hurry, and even tried to “relax” in a hurry. I thought if I could just move faster than everyone else, I would out-earn them, out-shine them, and outgrow my...
WHY DO YOU REALLY WANT TO BE AN ENTREPRENEUR?
Over the last four years, I’ve sat across from 80+ private clients and stared into the eyes of hundreds in live workshops. Every man who has come to me for business coaching has waved the same shiny banner: “I want to run my own business.”Cool. So do 100 million...
“I started associating my worth with my wins”
Read Sumit's Story:Sumit’s words, not mine, Shawn: “My identity was extremely attached to performance. I thought the more I did, the more worthy I was.” This is how most high-performing men suffer. They grind. They produce. They chase that next milestone - not...
Projection is a silent poison in love and leadership.
I’ve coached 80+ men in 1-on-1 private coaching calls and have led hundreds of people in workshops and group coaching settings since I started this path of full-time coaching, guidance, and mentorship in the summer of 2021.I've noticed a common theme in the men who...
Mastery Doesn’t Start with Power. It Starts with Responsibility.
There’s a subtle trap I see a lot of men fall into when they hit a new level of clarity: They think the breakthrough is the reward.They think motivation is enough to carry them through.They think self-mastery means finally feeling ready. But that’s not how it...
I’m Moving (Again)… But This Time Feels Different
The past 2.5 years in Phoenix have been quite the ride. It was loud.It was fast.It was full of breakthroughs, burnout, and deep realizations about who I actually am and who I’m not. After moving back home to Massachusetts a few months ago, I’ve been spending time...
Burnout Is the Byproduct of the Wrong Fuel
There’s a shift I’ve had to move through in my own journey, and it’s one I see my students in Divine Alchemy face at times, too. It’s the moment when you realize… “Damn. I’ve been doing all this not because I love it, but because I want to prove something.” Prove...
Why Getting What You Want Feels So Damn Hard (But Isn’t)
Remember being six and begging for a Game Boy? Mom hit you with the classic “money doesn’t grow on trees.” Dad followed up with a lecture on “needs vs. wants.” Translation to a kid’s subconscious: “Wanting more = selfish = dangerous.” Fast-forward to the...
One of the Biggest Mistakes I Made on My Growth Journey
One of the most dangerous things you can do on your self-improvement journey is this: Take advice from people who don’t embody what you actually want to become. I’ve done it. Overconsumed it, even. From spiritual gurus to business mentors to hyper-masculine YouTube...
Monk-Mode Myths: Why “No Friends, Just Grind” Will Gut Your Growth
Your Business Won’t Die If You Have FriendsA new student of mine asked me during our Divine Alchemy Monday call if he should still bother to make new friends while starting up his business and how a lot of advice online suggests that socializing is a waste of...
What Dating as a “Conscious Entrepreneur” Taught Me
Dating while scaling a business, healing childhood wounds, journaling through your shadows, and holding back from DM’ing her after two mezcal shots. It’s a different game.And I’ve learned a lot the hard way. Here’s what stood out: 1. The “spiritual” girl isn’t your...
Love Without Boundaries is Just Trauma With a Smile
The moment I gave myself permission to be an asshole… was the moment I finally became a leader. Now before your ego grabs the wheel.I’m not talking about throwing tantrums.I’m not talking about being reactive, loud, or emotionally immature. That’s uncontained...
Playing Life on Offense vs. Defense
I was driving earlier, just letting my mind wander… And it hit me: Most men, especially those stuck in self-help loops, chasing women, or trying to scale their business, aren’t actually playing to win. They’re just trying not to lose. They’re living life...
You’re Not Lazy. You’re Afraid of Your Own Power.
Let’s have a real conversation. You know damn well what you should be doing. You should be posting that piece of content that actually expresses who you are. You should be reaching out to that prospect who’s waiting to be led. You should be walking up to...
He used to outsource his worth.
Now he builds from authentic power. Joseph's Story →The Approval Trap Joseph wasn’t lost He was simply tired of chasing something he couldn’t name, identify, or put his finger on. On paper, he was doing more than fine. Smart, driven, well-spoken. But...
Why She’s Not Attracted to Your Soft Side
There’s a silent lie being sold to a generation of “nice guys” and sensitive men: “Just open your heart. Just be loving. Just raise your vibration. And she will come.” But the men I know who are actually in powerful, secure relationships? They didn’t start...
Manifestation Isn’t Magic. It’s This One Habit
Let’s be real. Most men don’t actually hate the gym, the grind, or the game of dating. They just hate not getting what they want fast enough. That’s why they tap out. You hit the gym for 3 weeks, and your abs still look like mashed potatoes. You go on 4 dates,...
Why Social Confidence Is Built Through Healing, Not Hype
Most men don’t need more pickup lines.They don’t need more pre-game routines.They don’t need another “trick” to be the most magnetic guy in the room. What they need...Is to feel safe in their own body when all eyes are on them. And that’s not built from...
Why Going To The Gym Won’t Fix Your Confidence Issues
Matt's story will show you what actually works ↓Let me tell you about a past client of mine - Matt Kall, and why his story is going to permanently change how you think about confidence. Matt was that guy who had his physical game on lock. Hitting the gym...
Breaking the Pattern of Pleasing Everyone But Yourself
Every once in a while, a woman reaches out to work with me privately.It’s not something I promote. But when the fit is right, I say yes. Ciara Cure was one of those women. When we first started working together, she was deeply aware of her own patterns.She had...
No One Buys from a Man Who Doubts Himself
There’s a pattern I’ve been seeing lately. Not just in my clients, but in the broader landscape of newer business owners who are still trying to make their mark. They have talent.They have offers.They even have a story that people would resonate with deeply....