As a man, you are here to penetrate women.
You have a penis.
She has a vagina.
Penis penetrates vagina.
I am sure you already knew that, lol.
Now let’s talk about energy.
Just like you penetrate her at a primal level to make babies (creation).
You must also bring the energy of penetration into your day-to-day life to create outcomes you desire.
You may want to create a connection with a woman.
You may want to create an online business on social media.
You may want to create an opportunity where you get a raise at work.
But you can’t passively wait around hoping life will give it to you.
You read that phrase right there?
“Give it to you.”
What’s a common thing women tell you when you are having sex with them?
“Give it to me.”
Do you want reality to penetrate you?
Or do you want to penetrate your reality?
Most men get lost because they wait for life to give them what they want.
They want to be penetrated.
But it doesn’t work that way.
You must go out there and consciously choose to give your penetrative force to life.
You must penetrate your environment in the direction you want to lead it.
Whether it comes to creating relationships with women or creating outcomes you desire, here are 10 ways you can start strengthening your penetrative masculine force.
1. Craft an origin story
If your life were a movie, what would be the story?
A woman wants to be with a man who is living an adventure.
Potential customers for your business want to buy from someone who has a story behind what you represent.
Your boss wants to know why you are capable of being paid more or leveling up your position at your current company.
Money, opportunities, and women are all attracted to men who have a story they live by.
Create a compelling backstory of yourself.
Create one with meaning and purpose behind it.
Don’t create a boring surface-level backstory.
Create one that’s honest, vulnerable, and authentic to your journey.
If you don’t share your backstory with women, your audience on social media, or the higher-ups at your company, then everyone will assume you’re hiding something.
When everyone assumes you are hiding something, they’ll lose trust in you.
And when people lose trust in you, they won’t follow your leadership.
Your origin story needs to be meaningful, vulnerable, and interesting.
If you can’t communicate what’s so different about you below the surface, nobody will care to learn more of who you are.
2. Flaunt your goals
Ambitious men are attractive as fuck.
Being ambitious should be a part of your identity.
If you don’t talk about your plans and your dreams for the future with conviction, women will start to think that you don’t believe in yourself.
When she can sense you don’t believe in yourself, she’ll lose attraction for you.
Now, before you choose to take this personally, understand why this is true.
As I’ve mentioned before in my newsletter a few weeks ago, women are more physically vulnerable than men.
They’re built weaker.
Their bodies are designed to be dependent on men while dealing with the burdens of pregnancy and post-pregnancy.
On a primal level, women deal with greater negative consequences by choosing a partner who can’t take care of them.
Big dreams, big confidence, and big dick energy are a way you show her a positive and powerful “I got your back no matter what” type of energy.
This makes her feel safe to get closer to you on an intimate level.
The same goes for running a business, being an influence online (or offline), and leveling up in your career.
Having conviction in yourself and where you want to be will only translate into how you lead others.
When you have conviction in yourself.
Other people will look up to you for your conviction, motivation, and encouragement.
Guess what?
People gravitate towards others who believe in them.
People like being around those who make them feel seen and heard in their best light. Even when they are going through tough moments.
When you look at your goals with an “I can do this” attitude, you become stronger because you stretch the capacity of your limitations, and you encourage others that they can do it too.
Have goals, talk about them, and go after them.
3. Create verbal tension
You need to know how to create:
– Playful sexual tension with your words.
– Honest confrontational tension with your words.
Learn to love all sorts of social tension and lean into it.
How can you know if you are facing social tension?
If you are socializing and you feel fear about saying something that may create a response of “rejection.”
Learning to lean into tension should be a part of your masculine identity.
Be cocky and funny with the women you approach, text, and date.
Make that joke that is slightly offensive in modern-day society.
Assert a boundary if you don’t like it when a woman or someone else in your life speaks disrespectfully to you.
Make the first move to create a connection with a woman when she leans closer to you.
The examples above are all situations where you may possibly face rejection.
You can go in for the kiss, and she may laugh and say, “Not yet.”
You can tell someone you don’t tolerate disrespectful language, and they may still cuss at you.
You can state an opinion that you stand by on social media, which may piss off a bunch of people.
It’s all good, though.
You leaned into tension!
By leaning into tension, you are living out your truth.
When you live out your truth with your words, you penetrate reality to respond to you.
4. Qualify women and opportunities
This is where many men fail.
They are so concerned with getting validation from women, or recognition from their boss, or money from their business.
By being so fixated on what they want, they let desire control them, and they kiss ass in the hope of getting it.
You must learn to know how to want something, but not bend over for it.
How do you do that?
By qualifying women, opportunities, and the people around you.
Instead of trying to impress, become curious.
Instead of trying to get a woman to like you, ask questions about what she values, how she spends her free time, and what her dreams for her future are.
Instead of trying to kiss your boss’s ass to get a higher position at your company, ask the higher-ups for more information about the role you are considering.
Instead of trying to prove yourself for a job interview, show curiosity in the company you are applying to. See if they are a good fit for YOU.
Instead of trying to sell your products and services to people, ask more about them to see if they are a good fit for your services.
This completely flips the narrative to work in your favor.
When you see yourself as the prize, you have nothing to prove.
People are repelled by a man who tries to prove himself.
People are attracted to men who already know they are good.
When a man knows he is already good, he focuses his attention on becoming curious about others instead of trying to prove his worth.
5. Develop your patience
Patient men are the ones who live more abundantly.
When you’re texting a woman, don’t eagerly wait for her response.
When you approach a woman, don’t be so quick to ask for her number.
When you go on a date with a woman, don’t be so quick to try to kiss her.
Don’t be so reactive to your desires that you just jump on them with zero social skills.
Men who are patient take their time to talk to her, make jokes, flirt, and banter.
This shows that you live in abundance.
What you desire exists everywhere around you.
You don’t need her.
You just genuinely show interest in wanting her without a tight grasp.
The same goes for your business.
You have all experienced pushy salespeople before.
Maybe at a car dealership, a coaching service, or anywhere else.
You know what it feels like when people want you to make a decision for their own selfish needs rather than genuinely helping you.
Yes, I understand we all have bills to pay.
But trying to push and manipulate others to buy your products and services won’t get you buyers who genuinely want what you offer.
Learn to build trust with your potential buyers.
When you learn to be present and build trust with people, it shows you are not in a rush to get things from them.
When you are not in a rush to get things from others, you are living abundantly.
Just like you don’t have to suck in all the air at once to get oxygen.
You just naturally breathe the oxygen because it is abundant; it can never run out.
The same goes for connecting romantically with women, getting buyers for your business, or creating new opportunities for your career.
Everything you want already exists abundantly around you.
All you need to do is just engage with it.
Become more patient and present and be less reactive.
6. Don’t hesitate your advance
Advance sexual tension with women from making out at the bar to having sex back at your place.
Advance your career by leveling up your skills to asking for a raise or promotion.
Advance your marketing and sales from a potential buyer to a new buyer.
In order to penetrate your reality, you must lead yourself and take the initiative to have social interactions, dates, and your career to go where you want them to go.
Nobody has to follow your lead, but you must take the initiative to take the lead in order for it to happen.
Gaining this skill requires a lot of practice, which requires a lot of exposure to more people.
When you move forward with your advances in full conviction, allow others to have agency to say yes or no.
7. Control your emotions
If you can’t master your emotions, you’re still living your life as a boy, not a man.
You can’t lead yourself or others effectively if you are reactive to your emotions.
Now, this does not mean suppress your emotions.
It means taking ownership of what you feel and learn to understand yourself through your emotions.
You must believe in your ability to solve problems, to overcome any adversity life throws your way, to survive the storms, and to eventually succeed.
The less you react to your negative emotions, practice understanding them, stay centered, and follow through with a solution, the more you mature as a man.
When it comes to tough emotions like anger, lust, fear, anxiety, frustration, etc. The goal is to channel them in a productive way.
Women want to be with a man with a high level of emotional maturity.
People follow men who can face tough emotions and show up with solutions.
That’s why leadership, self-confidence, and success feel so tough.
This is why not everyone practices these things daily.
Because it requires consistent discipline not to react.
8. Create more, consume less
A man is magnetic when he’s in motion, taking action, taking charge, imposing his will, building and creating.
You need to become self-aware of how much you are consuming per day vs how much you are intentionally creating.
Creating is active, consuming is passive.
Creating is penetrative; consuming is when you wait for life to give to you.
If you spend most of your free time passively consuming entertainment, don’t be surprised if girls don’t want to fuck you.
If you spend most of your free time passively consuming junk food, video games, drugs, alcohol, and scrolling on social, don’t be surprised if you are not making the amount of money you desire.
Women want to be ravaged by a proactive man who is a force of nature.
People want to follow the lead of a man who puts in the extra effort to take care of himself and others.
9. Courage + Skill = Authority
Women are wired to surrender to power.
Or better said, women are wired to surrender to AUTHORITY.
She is looking for a leader she can follow, but not just any random guy.
She wants to follow a man who actually knows what he’s doing.
People don’t follow the lead of just any random guy.
They follow the lead of someone who is proactive and makes things happen in their world.
Imagine if I asked you to join my coaching program and all I did was eat junk food, not take care of my mind, didn’t talk to any women, and put zero effort into creating more ways to help out my students?
I’d be a complete fucking phony; you wouldn’t want to get coached by me.
The way to gain authority is by first of all having the courage to take action, to gain experience and skill.
Everyone starts out as a beginner at something:
– At the business
– In their career
– At building their body
– At building the confidence to date women
We all start out as beginners, including myself.
The burden of being a man is to muster courage and start climbing the difficult mountain of life.
All of us need to do this; there are no exceptions to this rule.
When you have the courage to take action and be proactive on things that are difficult, you pave the way for women and others to follow you.
10. Confront your sexual core
Your aggressive sexual core is your life force.
Your life force is your power, and that power is fueled by your sexuality.
Your lust is fuel.
Too many men have been conditioned by society to disconnect from their sexual power because society tells them it’s bad.
So they repress it and become depressed as they get older.
This is how you become boring, plain, and lose your love for life.
When you can’t feel, experience, and penetrate life with your sexual energy, your reality becomes grey.
Women don’t want to fuck a man with no penetrative life force energy.
People do not follow men who are low energy and repress parts of themselves in order to blend in with society.
All of our leaders in society have stood out in some way, shape, or form.
You must learn to feel your life force energy and bring that life into everything you do.
If you aren’t landing dates with women or having sex with them, you are probably playing your conversations too safe.
If you aren’t receiving recognition at your job, you probably just put your head down, get the work done, submit it, and not bring any energy to your team.
If you aren’t getting any engagement on your online content or landing sales, it’s probably because you are being too plain and dull in how you run your business.
Too safe, too timid, too unsure of himself.
If you’re unsure or ashamed of your sexual core (your life force), women will eventually notice that something is missing from you.
You need to CONFRONT your aggressive sexual core, you need to accept your dark side, you need to relish your desire to ravage and conquer.
You can’t numb yourself with alcohol, video games, pot, fantasy football, gambling, porn, and expect to be attractive to high-quality women or create loads of wealth.
When you dull your senses, you dull your masculine force.
When you dull your masculine force, you dull your future.
You need to confront your sexual core, fully accept your lust, and then channel your sexual power in socially acceptable ways to turn them into results you desire.
This is how you become a man who is powerful, successful, and attractive.
I used to suppress my penetrative life force energy.
This made me lack purpose, drive, and ambition, and limited my ability to connect with women.
I always played it safe, and by doing so, I pushed away a lot of women I had opportunities to get closer to.
On top of that, always being timid, unsure of myself, and not having opinions that I’d stand by leads to stagnation in my growth as a Twitch streamer and in my career in B2B sales.
I had zero confidence in myself.
I never got what I wanted from life.
And I avoided intimacy like it was a plague.
Why?
Because I wasn’t going out there and making life happen for me with full conviction behind who I was being.
Today, I now have an active dating life, a thriving business, a solid social media presence on X, and clients who look up to my guidance so they can become successful as well.
I’ve faced many adversities in my life, from being bullied at a young age, being falsely allegation, being in toxic relationships with women that killed my self-esteem, and having severe chronic gut issues.
These adversities in my life have shaped me into becoming free in who I am today.
But I wasn’t able to do it alone.
Therapy didn’t work for me.
What did work was getting coaches and having healthy brotherhoods by my side.
With guidance, solid communities, and consistent effort into working on myself, I’ve been able to become confident in who I am.
That confidence in myself extended into having deeper and more meaningful connections with my friends, a business where people receive my guidance to better themselves, and women with whom I get to spend time romantically.
The things in life you desire don’t come overnight.
They come from working on yourself and applying yourself to the areas of life that are meaningful for you.
| Much love, Shawn “Sheshn” Heshmatpour |
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