Rejection.
Perhaps a small reaction happens to that word.
Maybe a punch to the gut, or a small wince causing the head to rotate slightly left.
Being told “no”.
Whether it’s your career, relationships, personal goals; rejection can make you question everything.
Bringing back that voice in the head:
“Am I good enough?”
“Why did they pick someone else?”
“What’s wrong with me?”
I used to let rejection define me.
I chased validation from others so hard that every “no” felt like a brick wall. A dead end.
Proof that I wasn’t enough.
But all this time, this wall that was appearing.
I was so fucking on the solid wood, that I failed to notice a handle was there all along.
It wasn’t the end, it was just the start:
Every rejection you face is a chance to build resilience.
It’s far from over.
Rejection is something that happened. It’s not the be all and end all. You are still breathing. Still moving. Still got that fire inside you.
Onto the next, yes?
And this is why we can’t avoid rejection.
People think by avoiding it, you’re keeping yourself safe. But you’re creating a ticking time bomb, because we all get rejected in one way, and the more you avoid it, the more you will feel it.
The less you experience it, the harder it would be to come out the slump and play a victim card.
Stop chasing people, opportunities, and outcomes that didn’t align with you. And each time rejection shows up, ask yourself:
“What is this teaching me?”
Rejection isn’t failure, it’s feedback.
It’s a lesson about alignment. About clarity. About growth.
- Rejection builds clarity. Every “no” shows you where you’re not meant to be. It clears the path for the right opportunities.
- Rejection builds emotional resilience. Feeling the sting and moving forward anyway strengthens your ability to handle life’s curveballs.
- Rejection builds confidence. Each time you face it head-on, you prove to yourself that you’re capable of surviving and thriving.
We always come back to confidence, don’t we?
It really is the root of everything we want in life.
The life you want is on the other side of rejection.
The question is: are you ready to walk through the door when it happens? (if you are, scroll down)
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Okay, if you’re feeling worried about rejection.
I’ve got something for you.
It’s a good reframing strategy, to help you start developing the resilience and confidence which comes with rejection.
This is specifically for dating though.
You can choose easy, medium or hard.
Easy: Get rejected by 5 woman.
Medium: Get rejected by 20 woman.
Hard: Get rejected by 50 woman.
Woah?!?
REJECTED?
That’s right.
Approach as many woman as possible (in a responsible manner) and see if you can clock up the counter.
You were so scared of rejection, but now it’s going to score you confidence points.
And who knows.
Along the way.
Someone could just say yes.
And that person could turn out to be very very special.
Let me know how you get on.
Much love,
Shawn “Sheshn” Heshmatpour
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