There’s a shift I’ve had to move through in my own journey, and it’s one I see my students in Divine Alchemy face at times, too.
It’s the moment when you realize…
“Damn. I’ve been doing all this not because I love it, but because I want to prove something.”
Prove something to the people who doubted you.
Prove something to the girls who didn’t want you.
Prove something to your dad, your childhood bullies, or the version of you that never felt like enough.
And Shawn, I get it.
I really do fucking get it.
For a huge part of my life, work felt like a chore.
Not because I was lazy but because I was performing.
Grinding to feel validated.
Hustling for money because I thought more money would finally give me a life people would respect.
Pursuing women not from love or desire, but to feel wanted because deep down I didn’t feel that way about myself.
That kind of fuel works… for a while.
But eventually it burns you out.
You start to resent the thing you used to love.
Even if you genuinely desire success, love, connection, wealth, and freedom, you can ruin it by letting validation, revenge, and societal pressure be your driver.
That’s the healing journey for a lot of high-performing men.
You don’t need to stop working hard; you need to stop working for everyone else’s approval.
Because here’s the truth…
The masculine path isn’t just about grinding for a vision.
It’s about choosing that vision every day because you love who you’re becoming in the process.
I’m in a season now where I’m scaling my business to a level higher than I’ve ever done before.
I’m preparing for a move to New Hampshire. (Upcoming newsletter about this one, too).
I’m finally making plans and looking up locations to get back into for the hobbies in my new neighborhood, such as boxing, jiu-jitsu, yoga, and nightlife…
Along with that, new projects in the back end, such as more video content, a podcast show that goes beyond just my coaching content, and so much more.
But I’m not doing it to be seen, validated, heard, or to prove something.
I’m doing it because I GET TO.
Because it’s exciting.
Because I’m finally not using my to-do list as a punishment for not being enough yet.
This is the work we do inside Divine Alchemy:
We rebuild your identity from the inside out.
We remove the subconscious programs that make you chase instead of create.
We help you build confidence, business, and relationships on your terms.
Do it for you.
Because when you do… everything else flows with more power, more confidence, and more presence.
If this hit, and you’re ready to build your life around who you really are…
Not for the girls, not for society, not for some influencer’s idea of success, but for the you you’ve always known you could be…
Much love,
Shawn “Sheshn” Heshmatpour
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