| It’s time to kick off 2026 with some wins. If you’re a busy professional or entrepreneur who wants to meet women and expand their social circle but also does not care to be on a screen any longer for dating apps or does not want to sign up for a bunch of random hobbies, do this… Make time out of your day to approach women. This may be frowned upon by your friends, family, and peers. I used to think this was weird, too. But deep down, you know dating is a numbers game. And I know that you don’t want to go out and spend money at the bars every weekend to not approach any women or have drunk conversations that don’t lead to a first date. I also know you want options outside of joining a social circle where you are still creating new relationships. Instead of joining a bunch of random group activities to hopefully make new friends and meet women. The case scenario for you is to treat approaching women and dating as a hobby/skill in itself. One that you want to become really good at. Let go of the outcome of finding your future wife. Just take time out of your schedule to walk around the mall and some shopping areas. Schedule it around running your errands. Now you can meet women without having to be on your screen for an extra 1-2 hours per day (depending on how many apps you have and if a subscription is involved). And you can meet women without having the pressure to hopefully make things work out with the one or two girls from a social circle or a place where both of you go to regularly. Let’s say you go out to just approach at a mall or big shopping area for 90 minutes twice per week. That’s easily at least 10 approaches right there. If you have some level of social competency and can banter just a bit, you’ll probably get 1-3 first dates. And the best part? If she friend zones you after the first date (a lot of them will. Not even the best “game coaches” out there retain all the women they go on a first date with) you can say this… “Yeah, that sounds good to me. Let’s get a group and do ____ next Saturday. I’ll hit up my friends too.” Now you are expanding your social network, making new friends, and you may vibe romantically with another girl in the group. When you treat dating in itself as just a hobby. You don’t need to find another bullshit hobby to meet women. You find new bullshit hobbies because you want to do them. You don’t need to go out to the bars to meet women. You go out to the bars because you want to go out and have a good time. You have so many more options, all because you decided to get off your laptop, phone, or tablet and go somewhere else besides work and the gym. You get some extra steps in at the mall, practice your confidence, cold approach women, and level up a skill. Dating is a hobby, a skill, and a commitment for men. And through that commitment, you get to expand your social circle along the way. The hardest part is just getting started. The hardest part is getting out of your head, realizing there is no shame in wanting to have an active dating life, and playing the game in your favor. When you let go of the shame, weaknesses, and insecurities around your sexuality, talking to women, and rejection, you become an attractive force. You now have options before finally meeting your wife. You get to make friends with more people along the way. You actually have plans where a woman or some new friends are EXCITED to see you instead of sitting inside in front of a screen all day. 2026 has just begun, and honestly, I don’t want this to be another year for you where you sit inside avoiding what you want in life. It’s time to reprogram your subconscious mind so you can feel CONFIDENT in who you are. It’s time to expose yourself to your fear of rejection, fear of judgment, and fear of abandonment. It’s time for you to finally go on some dates, make new friends, and have some fun again. |
| Much love, Shawn “Sheshn” Heshmatpour |
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