Most men I’ve worked with for the last 4 years have big goals:
Building or scaling a business.
Expanding their social circle.
Having an active dating life.
Finding the love of their life.
Buying a home.
Making $5k–40k per month, and even becoming a millionaire.
I’ve heard it all in over 4 years of coaching.
And it’s GREAT to have those ambitions.
But here’s the catch:
Most men fuel those goals from a place of lack.
They attach timelines, pressure, and stress to their desires.
And when things don’t happen as quickly as they expect them to, they spiral into burnout, self-doubt, and feeling like they’re not enough.
I see it when I coach business owners:
- “Maybe I should switch my marketing strategy.”
- “Maybe I’m just not doing enough. I need to push harder.”
I see it when I coach confidence in dating and social life, too:
- “Maybe I need to approach more women.”
- “Building friendships is so hard because everyone’s a normie.”
- “How should I respond to this Hinge message?”
All of it is fueled by the same thing: scarcity and self-rejection.
But here’s the truth you need to hear: YOU LACK NOTHING.
When your ambition is fueled by stress, pressure, and control, you’re chasing an illusion.
You’re addicted to the outcome like a drug, believing life only feels good after you get the girl, make the money, or build the lifestyle.
That’s not ambition.
That’s dependency.
And dependency repels instead of attracts.
Real ambition, the kind that manifests, is different.
It’s fueled by detachment.
It’s fueled by feeling good about yourself right now, no matter your current circumstances.
That’s what I call The Art of Detached Ambition.
Because here’s the paradox: when you feel good now…
When you practice gratitude, joy, curiosity, love, and service in the process…
→ Your goals unfold faster.
→ People, women, money, and opportunities gravitate toward you.
→ You work with God / the universe/consciousness (whatever language you use) instead of fighting against it.
Not because you’re gripping the outcome, but because you’ve learned to let go.
That doesn’t mean you stop working.
You still put in the reps.
But you do it from alignment with your natural rhythm, not from self-punishment.
And when you do, you stop carrying the weight of “not enough.”
This is how you kill chronic stress, anxiety, depression, and burnout.
This is how you manifest in a healthy way.
This is how you enjoy the process of building your life while knowing your dreams are already on their way.
Just. Let go.
And enjoy the fucking ride.
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Now I get it… Practicing this alone can be difficult.
Which is why I created Divine Alchemy Brotherhood.
We launched on May 12th and already have almost 20 men inside the program working on self-mastery, dating, relationships, social life, business, and career.
I run weekly group coaching calls, self-paced courses, and a Telegram group where you can ask me questions whenever you want and mastermind with your brothers who are on the same path.
There are different-priced packages depending on your needs.
I’m even partnered with third-party credit companies for payment plans, so you can move forward without financial stress holding you back.
You deserve to feel good about yourself.
You deserve to have it all.
But like any lifestyle, it takes practice.
I am here for you.
Much love,
Shawn “Sheshn” Heshmatpour
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