Here’s what I’ve been seeing lately, and I’ve lived it too:
Men are sitting on the sidelines, waiting.
Waiting for the perfect woman to fall into their lap.
Waiting for the perfect business idea to magically appear.
Waiting for the perfect moment to finally feel like “it’s time.”
Let me break it to you straight:
There is no perfect moment. There’s only the version of you that decides to stop hiding behind potential.
In Dating:
A lot of men think having “high standards” means they’re selective.
But let’s call it what it really is, cowardice in disguise.
You say you want a woman who’s “feminine,” “submissive,” and “ready to be led.”
But you’re not even putting yourself in front of women.
Or when you do, you’re out the door the second it’s not some fantasy dynamic.
No woman is perfect. She’s human.
Your job is to lead anyway.
Trial, error, tension, polarity, that’s how you see if she fits your frame.
Not by hiding behind “she didn’t qualify.”
In Business:
You can’t wait until you feel ready to show up.
You think your nervous system will magically calm down once you have more money? More clients? More likes?
No. You regulate through exposure.
Through showing up when it’s uncomfortable.
You want to lead a movement, but you’re ghosting your own voice every week.
Your nervous system isn’t overwhelmed.
It’s underdeveloped.
In Brotherhood:
Still waiting to feel “worthy” of quality men in your circle?
That’s why you’re still alone.
High-caliber men don’t wait around until they’re perfect.
They go where the pressure is.
They put themselves in uncomfortable rooms.
They move even when they don’t feel like it.
If you’re still avoiding people until your bank account looks good, you’ll stay broke and isolated for longer than you think.
The Inner Work Lie
You’re not gonna “think” your way into confidence.
You can meditate, journal, heal your childhood wounds, and yes, that matter,s but if you’re not pairing that with real-world exposure, it’s spiritual masturbation.
The reason you don’t feel safe in your body isn’t because you need more healing.
It’s because you haven’t trained your body to handle real life.
Rejection. Conflict. Criticism. Failure.
Stop chasing peace.
Earn it.
Don’t Buy Into Either Extreme:
🚫 The spiritual guru telling you to “align your energy” before you move.
🚫 The hustle bro telling you to “just shut up and grind.”
Both are out of balance.
True masculine leadership is a dance.
Between inner stillness and outer fire.
Between emotional intelligence and unapologetic execution.
You’re not here to wait.
You’re here to penetrate the world with your presence.
So Ask Yourself:
How long are you going to sit on your potential?
How much longer are you going to tell yourself that “one day” you’ll become the man?
Because life doesn’t wait for you to “be ready.”
It responds to the version of you who decided he was already him.
This is what we build inside Divine Alchemy.
Not just emotional mastery.
Not just mindset work.
Not just business tactics.
We train all of it.
Inner work.
Real-world exposure.
Brotherhood that holds you to a higher standard.
| Much love, Shawn “Sheshn” Heshmatpour |
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