I used to always wake up every day with the pedal slammed to the floor.
I woke up in a hurry, worked in a hurry, and even tried to “relax” in a hurry.
I thought if I could just move faster than everyone else, I would out-earn them, out-shine them, and outgrow my self-doubt.
The result was the opposite.
Mental pressure spiked, creativity tanked, and I finished most days feeling like a man who had sprinted through quicksand.
When I decided to commit to slowing my pace, I got more done in six focused hours than in the previous twelve-hour marathons.
The difference was night and day.
Hurry Comes From Scarcity
Hurry is not a time-management strategy. It is a scarcity strategy.
When a man believes that opportunities are limited, that respect must be chased, or that money will evaporate if he blinks, he runs.
That frantic energy repels the very things he wants: wealth, influence, status, and genuine appreciation.
People feel the neediness behind the rush and instinctively pull back.
Slowing down signals abundance.
It tells the world, “I am already enough, and I have time to make powerful moves.”
What Hurry Does to Your Body and Brain
Chronic rushing keeps the sympathetic nervous system stuck on high alert.
Cortisol stays elevated, heart rate and blood pressure climb, and the prefrontal cortex, the seat of clear decision-making, loses blood flow.
You think you are being productive, but you are literally wired for tunnel vision and impulsive choices.
Over time, that stress response erodes immunity, hardens arteries, and sets the stage for anxiety, depression, and even neurodegenerative disease.
Why Men Push the Gas Too Hard
- Cultural programming: From schoolyard trophies to corporate quotas, we are told to outpace the pack or be forgotten.
- Imaginary finish lines: We compare our Chapter 3 to another man’s Chapter 12 and try to time-travel by grinding harder.
- Resistance to reality: Admitting where we are feels uncomfortable, so we sprint toward where we think we “should” be.
- Worth tied to outcomes: If success equals self-acceptance, the only option seems to be constant acceleration.
The Power Play of Slowing Down
Slowing down is not laziness. It is lethal precision.
A man who breathes before he speaks, who pauses to feel his body before he lifts the next weight or signs the next contract, sends a signal of grounded dominance.
Physically, his parasympathetic system re-engages, cortisol drops, and testosterone stabilizes.
Psychologically, he has the bandwidth to read the room, sense opportunity, and choose high-leverage action.
Women notice the unhurried confidence.
Clients feel the certainty. Money follows calm execution.
Daily tells:
- You schedule recovery as ruthlessly as revenue tasks.
- You finish one conversation before starting the next tab.
- You walk into a room at half the speed and double the presence.
- You celebrate micro-wins instead of moving the goalposts.
Much love,
Shawn “Sheshn” Heshmatpour
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