There’s a silent lie being sold to a generation of “nice guys” and sensitive men:
“Just open your heart. Just be loving. Just raise your vibration. And she will come.”
But the men I know who are actually in powerful, secure relationships?
They didn’t start with love & light.
They started with fire & chaos.
They were the bad boys, the flirts, the wildcards.
They learned how to flirt, how to tease, how not to give a fuck.
They knew how to be socially dangerous before they became emotionally grounded.
That’s why their presence lands.
They earned their softness through experience not avoidance.
❌ If You’re a Nice Guy, Read This Twice:
If you’ve been sitting around hoping to attract “the right one”…
If you attach to every woman who gives you attention…
If you’ve been told to just “be loving” and wait…
You’re being misled.
God doesn’t reward the man who’s all love and light.
And He doesn’t reward the man who’s still out here playing games either.
He rewards the man who’s centered.
But you can’t be centered if you’ve never been off balance.
You can’t be grounded if you’ve never tested your own power.
⚠️ You Cannot Skip Your Edge Phase
If you’re naturally a “nice guy”…
You can’t shortcut the process by jumping to presence, softness, or spirituality.
Because what you call “love and light”
…is actually just people-pleasing in a prettier outfit.
You don’t want to offend anyone.
You don’t want to get rejected.
You don’t want to flirt wrong and be “creepy.”
So what happens?
You overthink.
You hesitate.
You play it safe.
And women feel all of that.
They don’t reject your words.
They reject your attachment to how they respond.
💡 What Actually Makes You Attractive
Let me give it to you straight:
What makes a man magnetic is detachment.
When you’re not attached to the outcome,
You can flirt freely.
You can be bold.
You can make the joke.
You can say what’s actually on your mind.
Women don’t want perfection.
They want realness.
They want the truth.
They want to feel your edge, not your fear.
🧠 Integration Happens After Experience
You want to know when men finally become emotionally grounded?
After they’ve lived.
After they’ve made mistakes.
After they’ve had sex with enough women to realize they want depth.
That’s when the heart finally opens without fear.
That’s when softness isn’t a performance.
That’s when consciousness becomes authentic, not just a mask to be liked.
And that’s the woman you’ve been praying for?
She actually respects you.
Because now you’ve got both:
Edge and depth. Presence and polarity. Heart and fire.
⚔️ The Problem with Most Coaches
A lot of coaches out here will teach you one of two extremes:
- Purely 3D: Dating tactics. Text game. Social dynamics.
- Purely spiritual: Breathwork. Inner child. Feminine surrender.
But they miss the bridge in between.
You can’t just meditate your way into confidence.
And you can’t just flirt your way into inner peace.
You need both.
That’s what Divine Alchemy is built on.
| Much love, Shawn “Sheshn” Heshmatpour |
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