Good morning.
Let’s continue from a recent blog, where we dissected why one method for everyone doesn’t work to gain true confidence and success.
We know the self-improvement world is full of extreme advice.
You’re either told to be an emotionless “alpha” who’s all drive and dominance, or you’re supposed to fully embrace your “feminine side” and follow your feelings 24/7.
These two extremes are everywhere online, and while they make for catchy headlines, they don’t lead to real confidence or fulfillment.
When we lean too hard into one side, we lose what makes us whole. If you’re all drive and no introspection, you risk burning out and isolating yourself. And if you’re all vulnerability and no action, you end up lacking purpose, feeling ungrounded, and stuck in indecision.
Both of these approaches miss the mark. Confidence and success aren’t about becoming a caricature—they’re about blending strength with depth, purpose with connection.
Real growth comes from balance.
So Shawn, What DOES Balance Look Like?
Finding balance isn’t about following a rigid set of rules or memorizing techniques. It’s about tuning into what works for you in a way that feels both powerful and authentic in every moment.
Here’s how you can start building that balance:
- Develop Your Masculine Drive – This is where your purpose and ambition come into play. Define what you’re working toward and why it matters. But remember, purpose doesn’t mean sacrificing everything else. Drive is essential, but it shouldn’t take over your life.
- Embrace Inner Growth – Confidence isn’t just about achieving things; it’s about knowing yourself deeply. Spend time understanding your own beliefs, your patterns, and the insecurities that hold you back. The goal isn’t to be “perfect”—it’s to be mindfully aware.
- Strength with Openness – Here’s the key: you don’t have to choose between strength and vulnerability. You can be driven while staying emotionally connected to yourself and others. Real strength is about being open when it matters and holding firm when it counts. This balance is where real power lies.
When you can blend these two polarities, you’ll find yourself standing in a place of confidence that doesn’t waver, whether in your career, relationships, or personal growth.
Even if this has started to sound repetitive to you, take it as a good sign!
You are starting to ingrain it into your mind.
It takes time to learn these things, it doesn’t happen overnight.
If you’re tired of the extreme advice and ready to create something sustainable, keep an eye out for an upcoming announcement in the next few weeks…
Much love,
Shawn “Sheshn” Heshmatpour
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